Apr 5, 2008

And then there are the FAT...

Men, Women and then there are the Fat. As far as I see it, this is THE most prevalent classification of mankind. The others, based on religion, caste, geography and all that blah, fade into oblivion.

I maybe digressing now, but lemme tell you a recent and relevant incident . Another one of those girl-inspection days. One set of parents walked in, walked over (us) and walked out. The 'Mom' was pretty sweet, all gushing that I was THE daughter-in-law they were looking for, while the 'Dad', well, he was a different story altogether. For the first 20 min of the conversation, the dude remained silent. So we were deceived into thinking he was the placeholder Decision Maker in the family whereas auntyji was the Real Deal. But then he opened his mouth. (Uhm, he did earlier too, but that was to stuff it with halwa, 25 pooris, potato AND unimaginable quantities of kalakhand that we served!) His first words were, "So, do you exercise?" If till then I was smiling and obliging, this question left me flabbergasted, because I knew where this was heading. I said,"Not really. I've been planning to, but haven't yet". Initially my mom got all defensive and for some godforsaken reason felt the need to justify," Illa, she used to go to the gym earlier but......no time now. And once she left it she put on more weight. But she loves working out. She....is very enthusiastic about it. She....diets a lot." etc etc.

Then he went on about how fitness is important and how his wifey aces 40 min on the treadmill every day (auntyji was beaming across the room) and how he is Mr.Calisthenics himself. All that with a belly the size of that cooking vessel in Jodha Akbar! Now, on a normal day, I would never be so mean as to say this about someone else, especially someone I hardly knew and that too well over 60. I wouldn't be judgemental about 'guests' coming into my house unless, UNLESS, he hadn't said all that he said!

Next he said, "I don't know what your weight is but I can tell you, you have to lose 10 kgs. And you should not gain it back after marriage". If I was flabbergasted before that, now I saw red. But I didn't say anything. Not that I care about what they think but I didn't want to make it seem like my parents haven't brought me up right. I could see my Dad and Dolz realllllll pissed on the side. Surprisingly, this time my mom (who is generally the one pleading/ screaming/ emotionally-blackmailing me into losing weight) laughed and said, "Actually, I've been after her to lose some weight for a very long time. But she says that Being plump is not a character flaw*. If that is the reason for someone to reject her, then she doesn't need a hyprocrite like that. She feels that what if after marriage if she puts on weight, the guy will leave her and go or what?" That moment, I could've just about jumped across the room, lifted my mom off the floor and given her a bear hug. I'm sure she would've thought I was nuts, but she deserved it!

{* That is a quote by a famous, wise, smart and intelligent person, aka Moi}

The opposition Mom decided to take charge again and subtly asked her husband to 'Ssshhh' and went on to pacify me saying,"Adellam thaana korayum. Just konjam exercise good dane. Don't worry, you are tall. Your weight doesn't show on you at all. You look really nice the way you are". [Translation: You will naturally reduce. Just a little exercise is good only] Sweet of her, yea, but not like I was worried and besides, the damage had already been done.

I may not be the dainty darling they are looking for but, what, if I'm fat I'm not marriage material but if I'm thin I'm the epitome of bahu-hood??? Maybe they should be looking out for Jane Fonda's daughter for their US payyan!

Forget just for marriage, fat bashing is everywhere. Fat people are the butt of all jokes. Harmless, at times, but never hurtless. All that extra adipose doesn't really cushion the heart from feeling bad! And you know...? Just because I'm taller and fatter than my older-by-4 years-but-shorter-and-thinner sis, I'm always considered to be the older one. It's almost like I'm gonna have to sport a disclaimer on my forehead henceforth reiterating my 'younger sibling' status.

It's such an annoyingly vain world out there that it really drives me nuts!Why is everything based on face value, or rather figure value? Even before saying hello, people have said,"Oh my god, you've put on soooo much of weight compared to the last time I saw you!" As I've said earlier, niceties are rare and unimportant.

But you know what? Call me plump, fat, gundu, chubby or whatever, atleast I'm happy. And I really would be a lot happier if everyone could see it too.

69 comments:

Confounded-Lady said...

Its tragic Preets...I agree with you :| They have a saying in Tamil na..aaL paadi, aadai paadi... judgement in based on what you look like. Nothing else.
Humour, intelliengence, talent, all that vanishes into thin air, when benchmarking with one's physical attributes.
Thats with the common ppl though.

When you confront ppl who are a class apart they will appreciate you for your humour, simplicity and talent... our friends are perfect examples :)

Arun Sundar said...

jodha akbar vessel comparison was hilarious! and don't worry yaar. U being this cool, that US paiyan doesn't deserve u!

Keshi said...

Preeti darling I was reading this post with my jaw dropped. Seriously HOW DARE THEY SAY SUCH THINGS TO YA??? If I were u, I'd hv asked em to leave. Seriously I cant and wont tolerate such rude n arrogant imbeciles. How can u be so patient with such air-heads??


**So, do you exercise?"

And that was what he asked u first? OMG wut a twat! Pardon my language but rite now by blood is boiling Preeti. I may not hv known u for too long, but I REALLY LIKE WHO YOU ARE. And for me to read wut u went thru with that moron, I almost cried. What he said was emotional torture for ya. No girl deserves to be spoken to like that. What kinda man asks such qns the first time he meets a girl? Only a narrow-minded fool!


And for them to say that u should lose 10k etc etc. OMG who do they think they r? I so know this kind tho...alot of Sri Lankan families r the same. They look for a Aish look-alike (with a body abt to break into 2) for their sons and end up living miserable lives.

U really should hv told em off. I would hv. But I know u care abt ur parents and u dun wanna hurt em.

But please, never be forced to marry someone like this guy..ok hun? I dun want u to end up as some crazy family's dumb-logic-driven house-wife. Ur a humanbeing...a beautiful girl with a beautiful heart n soul. Never let ppl overloook that!

The rite guy will see u for who u r..not for how much u weigh on the scales.

And whoever says ur fat is blind...u r just like me..ur body type. Fleshy n HOT :). Look at ya! UR SO BEAUTIFUL! Cudnt that moron see that?? Mebbe he needs prescription glasses. He doesnt know what he's missing out on.

The most imp thing like u said is, that UR HAPPY. *HUGZ* very well-said there.

Read this post that I wrote abt my nearly-anorexic cuz n few stick-thin girls:

http://keshigirl.blogspot.com/2006/09/granny-craig.html


TC hun! Shove their shit over heir faces! WE LOVE YA PREETI!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

**over THEIR faces

gradwolf said...

is this an appropriate post to make my first comment :-?? ...err.. anyway, aiyo pavam, that was a bad experience. i would say you handled it very well and your attitude is simply amazing. you should email that guy the link. i cannot believe how much ever forward our society gets, there is no dearth of people who just want to pull it back.

P.S:
reminds me of vivek comedy in dum dum dum - "tamil pasangalke konjam gunda irundha dhan pidikum"..lol...

--
Adithya

rsubras said...

oh come on preeto.. i shud say you have got an awesome attitude..., datz reflecting in each one of ur post.... although i shud give the credit for that to ur parents :)

coming back to ur post...well...u hit the nail when u said

>>Fat people are the butt of all jokes. Harmless, at times, but never hurtless

true..true..true... :) had been hurt so many times in my young age... but i shud accept....that strengthened my resolve to get fitter etc.,.. do hard work for that etc., etc., (although i must admit i am damn lazy :D) the thing is even i hate looking fat myself.... when i shed some kilos, i feel so happy.... i feel much better, enthu etc., when i gain some kilos it is the opposite..

but the point is, whether u are heavier or lighter in physique it doesnt matter... if you have a lighter heart (that is powerful) life will always be nice and fun.. if u have a slimmer physique and a heavier heart (dumped with garbage thoughts), life is gonna be miserable...thatz what i feel atleast :)

♥bμşγ-ŵŗϊŧēŕ♥ said...

Jesus Christ! I cannot believe such horribly insensitive dud-heads exist in real! Whoa..its pathetic, really. Totally. And damn, you should have given back too (am glad your mum did, that was so sweet and musta been very comforting!)..you should have asked him if he "always" ate that much of something.. sigh! Anyway, tis over..and true, all that matters is if you're happy or not, if you are, fuck everything else.. who cares!?

:) cheers!!

♥bμşγ-ŵŗϊŧēŕ♥ said...

btw, really cute photo on the sidebar! you look all so lively and happy and friendly! :D ;)

vidhya said...

I have been a silent reader of your blog for past few months... You are really having cool attitude preetz :)

You are looking very cute :) Your plumpness only makes you look more cute.. Don't bother about some third person's words...

keep smiling :)

Ok said...

You are a babe. And, you have a tatoo. If thats not got enough for a guy I think he should pretty much start "ponnu pathufying" in the Miss Univ. paegants.

Drenched said...

Oh, crap. This is one of the things which really risks bursting my blood vessels if it pisses me too much. Who the hell was the random uncleji to call you fat and make personal remarks, especially when he didn't have a six-pack himself (LOL@Jodha-Akbar vessel thingie :P)? You're way too patient but I mean it in a good way. It's a nice thing you let your mom slap them in the face with her awesome answer. I might have jumped up and threatened the guy with the kitchen knife or something while screaming my head off at him at the same time. :P
As far as "fatness" is concerned, you're not fat. And anyway, it's very normal to be tall and have some extra flab. And who doesn't have flab? Not everyone is a model here. And who the hell cares about flab if the person's smart and intelligent and witty and charming AND has a sexy tatoo? :O Whining about a few extra pounds while ignoring all those qualities just shows an empty top-floor of the head.
As for "fat" people, I've my own views. There are some who say since I've never been fat or even chubby, I can't understand them. True, I really can't. But at the same time, I can't understand their lack of restraint either. I'm not talking about chubby. I'm talking about the morbidly obese, who are so because they just plain eat too much. It's not even eating too much which bothers me. It's the fact that they moan about how they huff and puff and about some medical condition or the other. Bloody, why the hell eat so much then? There's something called self-control! Practise it! These people elicit no sympathies from me. If you genuinely have a problem, take control of the situation before it kills you. (This is again just for the obese whose health gets affected, not the regular chubby, which every second person is.)

Phew, rant over. :P

Ok said...

@drenched: "Not everyone is a model here." Speak for yourself, missy! Except you most of us are very good looking.

narendra shenoy said...

Drenched just spoke for all of us, I think. Though I second OK in saying that she speaks for herself when she avers that people are plain. I am frequently mistaken for Richard Gere.

Drenched said...

@OK and Narendra: Oh, shut up. I know you both are jealous of my well-maintained figure and of my lovely, rosy complexion. When I said that part about the models, I just meant that not everyone's tall (okay, I'm vertically challenged). Hmph.
While Blogger hated OK's scary pic so much that it removed it, Narendra himself acknowledges the yummy things he has to give up on to maintain his "cool dude" type of image. Pity. I rule the roost with my beauty for which I've to do no efforts at all.

upecmustang said...

honestly...lets swap moms.
no jokes
dead serious
i need "globally structured defence" like that. coz she thinks im some misguided idealist or something.
(MOMMY!!...u reading this???)

cheers!

ps.@drenched: you gO girl...!!

pps. next time someone treats marriage like some kinda 'weighty' business deal (sry...bad pun), kick em in the nuts (if they have em...which i doubt)

rantravereflect said...

Hey baby,

its always been the good, the bad and the lard for me too.. :)
but jeff was tellin me a while ago that i see it tat way only cos for me, 'being fat/thin' is a huge thing..so i've come to a point where i've stopped being bothered.
i'm fat, then so be it- looking at someone and judging someone basis tat is totally wrong...

arseholes keep shooting tat at me,like 'oh my god' you've so much fat on you- i friggyn dun give a damn..
its the kickarse attitude, the disposition and belief in myself that does matter..

opening his mouth to stuff stuff inside was absofukulutingly funny..
:) n the jodha akbar belly- ha ha, ive always wondered how men/women acquire a belly that gets stronger than a mud pot. I guess this uncle lost his brains while he grew his belly- n blew a bombshell like you a pathetic stinkbomb..

:) cheerz babe :) we're happee people n letz keep being tat way :)lurvv
jj

Winds of Change said...

there r a lot of idiots in this world...n as i keep teln u...eone is beautiful in their own way...n wat dat dude had told...was sooooooo dumb...infact i wud say, u gta b glad he told dat...u kno...u get to kno the kind of ppl they r....cuz if he hadnt commentd dat way....u wudve thot they wer normal ppl...i also hate these guys who put 'looking for a fair, beautiful, well mannered, intelligent girl who can take good care of my parents & home' . I think such ppl shud really look out for a maid and not for a partner! HMPH!!! stupids!
...newayz....u luk awesum whthr u loose wt or not(U SHUD KNO DAT!)...so keep rockin!!!!!!! :)

lotsa luv
u kno who

Prathi:-) said...

p3... im shocked.. as in... reaaaallyyy shocked.... as in.... hw in the world can sm1... walk into ur house n have the audacity to tell u such thngs?????
why in the world were u quiet???? u shud have spoken back to that freak di.... but u knw wht shocked me more???? aunty's statement... i swear...!!!! as in... aunty???? talking like dis???? wow... im reaaaally surprised...
but u knw wht???? being fat is no big deal:) trust me... i once heard sm1 say dts ""jus more extra sexy flesh for me"" dts the spirit... i swear.... dt shows true love... will we leave a guy jus coz he got bald or fat???? or smthng??? well the same applies to them as well... but whoever came to see u dt day???? dey dnt deserve u di.... u deserve sm1 nice... remember guy # 5???? we dnt need fitness intructors as our boyfrndz or husbands.... if dey need a perfect figure girl... dey shud probably order for a life size barbie doll... n every1 knws the use of a doll!!!! nothing!!!!
(hey dolly not u:) ur a baby:))

love u di:)
bye:)

PREETI said...

@ALL, THNX!!! me even more happier now! :D

down to details,

@mayth: that sayin in tamil juz made sense to me nw! they wr hypocrites bak then too! no wonder it still continues now...

@arun: thnx! tatz wat i keep sayin, he doesnt deserve me :D

@keshi: tat really ws the first thing he asked me...i guess wat it indirectly did ws appreciate my mum better cuz she stood up for me :) thnx for the love, appreciate every bit i get!

@adithya: welcome here...therez no good time/bad time to comment here, ellame rite time dan :D itz true, thrz alwayz somethin pullin our society bak n it is these kinda ppl...n lol@ the vivek comedy...now im totally glad im a tam ponnu :D

@rsubras: thanx pa! but ur rite...even im conscious of myself these days n i do watever i cn do to keep fit...i dont need some random third person to come n tell me hw i shud run my life rite? whthr it is for the good or bad thr is a way of sayin thingz!they'l never understand...

@busygurl: thnx, thnx,THNX! man, im never gonna stop blushin if all of u r this nice to me :D hehe...n yup lively, happy n friendly is definitely me ;)

@vidhya: thnx for readin :) n thnx even more for commentin now :) n THNX even more for sayin im cute...appa! enaku oreyyy fanz ippo :D

Ekta said...

Awwww..am sooo proud of u and ur mommy dear as well!!
And well unfortunately wer living in a hypocritical world where people cant see beyond the slim figure and the fair skin!
Just be yourself..and whether ur 'fat" or "thin"...just be healthy!

PREETI said...

@ok: seriously wish i could tell that US payyan to start lookin out at the pageants thr...maybe the bikini clad babes r wat his parents r lookin for...? btw, thnx for the babe bit :")

@drenched: whoa! super comment! sorry for the extra blood pressure causin post, bt ur comment is much appreciated gurl! :) n lol@ the spat between u n OK...n NS :)

@Ok again: u juz HAD to say tat, dint u? :D

@Richard Gere...oops...Narendra: Honoured to have u here! Afterall, lotz has been said in the bloggin world abt ur literary prowess! :)

@drenched again: LOL!

@upec:swap momz...hmmm...maybe we shud put them up on some mom swap reality show or somethin...wat say? :)

@janie: yea, we're a happy bunch, arent we? happy, round, loud, boisterous n all of tat! so cheerz to us! :) [itz tequila time ;)]

@ruby: yup, we knw abt those 'fair,thin,intelligent...' types rite? luvvvvv u!

@prathi: i told u abt tis thing di rem? even i ws shockd someone had the audacity to say tis...n even more tat my mom said tat :D i guess she does love me after all ;)

@ekta: thnx :) n herez to bein healthy and HAPPY!

Nirmal's Blog said...

hey great reading u again..
tats cheap yaar talking all these shit when came 2 c u....
finally ur amma got the mest dialogue award...claps 4 her..

let me know if this doesnt go right...coz i luv plum gals ...
and my mom says pennukutigal aayal kurachu shakti vennum...lols

Nirmal's Blog said...

and yes i m adding u on my blogroll...

PREETI said...

@nirmal: Will pass on the claps to amma :)

*and my mom says pennukutigal aayal kurachu shakti vennum.*

ah! ur amma is very smart! u shud listen to her...bt i think ur younger than me...?? ;) hehe...

n thnx for addin me on...iv added u to!

Nirmal's Blog said...

u marry a person older to you and not be happy...
u marry a person whos like months younger and i tell u wont be the happiest gal but u will never face sadness....than whom will u choose..

Hakuna Matata said...

ROFLolled @ Jodha Akbar gundu chatti :D

If it makes u feel ne better, a person I know (alright alright, that was me) was once called horizontally challenged (along the lines of vertically challenged for the short - made me wonder if there were any thillalangadi double meanings to that one though)

and yeah, not to forget the aunties gushing 'unga ponnu healthy-aa irukka' .... that is wat one calls ooma kusumbu

Keshi said...

Hope all is well with ya hun. MWAH!

Keshi.

CM-Chap said...

OMG... Is that guy have his senses intact? How dare he will ask a person like that... thattoo to someone whom he is meeting for the first time. He doesnt deserve you. Leave it.

BTW, I'm on the other side... I belong to the category of Tall & Slim... I call it Slim, Ppl say I'm thin. So I get free advice frm every corner..u hv to put on weight so that u will get a girl. I tell them I'm not looking for one. Some of them give me a look of the life.

Bloghopped here from Solitaire. Planng to blog roll u... u ok?

Mez said...

Hey Preeti,

I am a first timer on your blog and totally loved teh way you put across your point in this post. I can so very well relate to what u are saying cuz am myself at teh receiving end of this weight game n gosh! what all crazy questns ppl can cum up with.

I won't clal myself fat but i am decent enuf..u know not those skinny types. Understandable if my family tells me to loose nut why da heck, the world worries so much..u know the condecending way relatioves ask "Oh my god, u have put on weight, loose it before marriage blah blah". I really don't care but sumwhow dont seem to get away with nagging pointers like these.

Anyhooo i just happnd to join a gym few days back n the lazy me is luvin it :)

PREETI said...

@nirmal: ah! hmmm...now iv gotta think on that :) ;)

@hakuna: hahahahaha@ gundu chatti :D nw i dint think of tat! and et tu...? hi-five!

@keshi: am doin muchhhh better thanx to allll here! hugz :)

@cmchap: Thnx n sure, go ahead...im glad to be blogroll-worthy! n lucky u tall n slime types :) tho i knw bein too thin is also not the greatest thing cuz iv seen a few of my friendz with probz like that too!

@mez: welcome here :) n thnx :) the gym definitely is super-feel-good therapy...iv been thr, done tat...n so nw iv joined aerobics...id prob lose wieght slowly, but its sooo mucha fun! :)

The Techno Maniac said...

Preeti P3 Preets,

I dont want to go all over this again. I just hate it when you say that guy comes, have a look at you and say you re fat and then gives some nonsense, not forgetting the part that he eats 25 puris and a KG of halwa.. Mad mad world..

FInd someone who d take u as u are.. and I have been telling yopu that u r a too wonderful person to be with.. and only ppl who know you can understand..

I have nthin to say more.. I am neither lean or a hunk.. i am actually heavier athan you.. but i just dnt care abt looks.. but a lot of ppl go y face values.. even my bestest of friends'

Next time some one says that, please show them the door. Make enquiries before they decide to visit ur house.. to avoid feeding those ppl..

Luv
TM

Sutta said...

Did all this "actually" happened to you? I mean, this whole 'bride-seeing' part? :O

Fuck man!

And just to add, you look perfect in your pic. :P
Don't loose weight, skinny girls are too bleh. :P

PREETI said...

@Satti sattu sathiya: Iv told daddy darlin, that from now on no more entertainin every random damily into our homes...common meetin place is a much better idea!

@rohit: yea, tis REALLY happened to me...n sadly, tis girl seein stuff really does happen...*sigh*

AND, Thnxxxx! glad u thought so :)

Ok said...

Seriously! You are pretty. Now wonder you have 5 !@#$ ;).

Kumar said...

Hi preethi
Have been reading ur blog for quite sometime,well we had the same kind of xperience when some jerks like this had come to see my cousin,in this case the would be athai was the one asking the qsns,she had the guts to ask my sis to change into a saree for her to see,seriously WTF...

Btw,hope you have got the comments dat u look like ramya:-)

♥bμşγ-ŵŗϊŧēŕ♥ said...

I just read kumar's comment here. and hell yeah! i wonder why i dint see it before..you look soo much like the kannada actress ramya!! whoaa!! :O

Nirmal's Blog said...

he he after reading above comments theat guy will shoot himself....

look i m so lucky..:p

PREETI said...

@OK: Haha...I've got to stop blushin! :")

@kumar: Welcome here...mayb we shud all start protestin against the conventional girl seein wayz! anywayz, YEA, a lot of ppl HAVE told me abt tis ramya resemblance thing...hmmm, dno if tatz a good thing or bad, but id prefer to say i look like my mom :D thnx for droppin by!

@busygurl: oh no! not u too! hmmm...but is she really AS pretty as i am..?? ;) hehe...

@nirmal: yea,he shud read it :D hehe...n ur lucky...? Y?? ;) :D hehe...

claytonia vices said...

Girl, the next time someone talks like that you can tell them to leave. They are not worth it. If there are any concerns about health this is not the way to say it!! keshi is so right!!

I found ur blog at 'pot pourri' where u were saying that u had to remove links to your blog from ur orkut profile coz of the shaadi thing coming up.

I actually think u should tell them (the rishtey-wale) to read the blog first before coming to you. If they can't accept the real you they might as well take a hike!!

Coconut Chutney said...

thought i left a comment here, can't find it now...
anyways, there's one major thaththuvam in tamil - kazhudhaikku theriyuma karpoora vasana?

You're 100% refined karpooram. :)

Keshi said...

Preetz come n check out my doll :)

Keshi.

Solitaire said...

I hate this!!!! Media is a huge culprit for our world to begin giving body shapes so much importance, more than emotional states. I used to be "fat" once and was called all sorts of names..cows,buffalo, etc!!

PREETI said...

@claytonia vices: I totally agree! Given a choice, Id really ask them to do tat, but tis weird society really scares me smtimes, even though we dont wanna, we hv to give in to their unrealistic demands :(

@chutney: Awww,THANX...seriously meanz a ton..Next time I'm asked to descirbe myself anywhr, im gonna say "Im 100% karpooram" hehe...

@Kesh: Checked out n commented...Ohhhh,shez sooooooooo cute!!! :)

@Solitaire: Oh iv had my share of those names too-pig,buffalo n all tat blah...damn those mean @#!$@!!!

Kumar said...

thnx preets,the irony is im going to see a gal this weekend..but i insisted dat we see her at a common place so they decided dat we would see them at the church keeping my fingers crossed.....well if i get to see ur mom ill definitely make that comment too...:-)

PREETI said...

@kumar: *fingers crossed* hope thingz go gr8 for u! :) do lemme knw ;)

Mez said...

Its been 5 days and i can't see any results yet frm gymmin. sob sob sob

PREETI said...

@mez: if ur in chennai, u shud probably join the aerobics classes i go to...REAL good...

n if ur not, trust me, iv been thr before, give urself a week-10 days, n ur gonna see the difference...n u luv it...so dont let the results motivate u!

Gargling Garbage said...

Do we have an 'Unbreakable' story here? ;) I am thinnnnn... I weigh a mere 40 odd kgs n I have been hearing ridiculous comments ever since I turned 3 (years) from people around... "U dieting? Starving yourself to death? Anorexic? Do u have dogs running after u? Don't sit on my lap- u poke, Cuts like a knife, Oma kuchchi" ... I've always wanted to believe in Ugly Duckling-turns-into-a-beautiful-swan! And I did turn beautiful... by convincing myself that I look fantabulous the way I am!

H.m.m.. You and me - we enjoy great health and happier spirit! So, why bother bout pseudo fitness freaks! Cheers gurl!

PREETI said...

@gargling: maybe we could strike a deal...i give u some of my extra flab n we both could live happily ever after!!! [not with each other ;)]

bt as u said, we both r happy, free-spirited souls...n tatz all tat matterz rite???

--xh-- said...

have seen this happening, and i gets really pissed off coz of this - and from my personal experience, I have seen slim petite figures gaining weight liek anything aft marraige.

Marraige market is like an animal market - like teh way you buy a cow, ppl gewak at ur face, ur flab and what not and then decide whetehr you are fit or not. this is one thing which irriattes me a lot abt the marraige thing.

I seems to belong to the minority who thinks pleasently plump is b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l and HOT.

I like the way ur mom retirted to that idiot. Dont ya fume over this da - there r guys who see beyond the frame and all that stuff.. you will get one guy like that...

PREETI said...

@xh: yayyyy!!!! ur my first time
50th comment!!! :) :) :) :) hehe...

lol@ the animal mrkt...

n nice to knw thr r guyz like u around ;) :)

Archana said...

WTH - they really said that!!!! OMG - man, I am sure glad you are rid of them. I applaud you for so politely handling them. I would have just shown them the door with some not-so-nice words as soon as prospective FIL started spewing his words of "wisdom".

p.s. as you already know, such a family will never deserve you in a million years.

PREETI said...

@archana: thnx really...i wish i hd the guts enough to tell ppl off, but i dont...i guess i will hv to learn tat!

Anil P said...

:)

PREETI said...

@anilp: :)

Doll said...

ur beautiful bujo...n whoever sez no to u...have no idea what they r missing out on........i will make sure u get ur perfect match....someone who treats u right and loves u unconditionally 4who u r.........why fear when akka is here ;-)

Satan said...

Being plump is not a character flaw*.

Kudos to ur mom, I loved tht

ruSh.Me said...

Yes....being plump is just as OK as say....having curly hair....or hazel eyes.....

I could never find out the ho-hum behind it....!!

PREETI said...

@Buj: Thanx...i love u alwayz! :)

@Satan: Uhm, tatz my dialogue actually ;) she just repeated it! :D

@Rush.me: EXACTLY! I really dont see y ppl gt worked up abt it...!

Satan said...

Whoever commented it !!!

Its has become one of my fav quotes

The Maverick Blog said...

*&@$%*@ those insane and hypocryte ppl...... They Suck big time!!!

PREETI said...

@Satan: Really??? Do quote me when u do quote it! :)

@maverick: Yea, hypocrites, all of em!

Satan said...

LOL, yeah definetly

neway put ur comments on this post of mine

http://vishal-rationalism.blogspot.com/2008/04/male-chauvinist.html

Aaarti said...

Hey
Came over from your comment on Rsubras blog..

wow, hats off to u girl.. me too in the same bandwagon and i am truly happy being me.. and care twoo hoots for anyone who dares be so obnoxious abt it.. they can take a hike and into helldom for all i care... :)

way to go~!!

A.Johnson said...

Wow! Your mom's comment... That was beautiful. A real memory for the treasure box, I bet.

PREETI said...

@Satan: Sorry for the delay! Will check!

@Arthi: Thanks gurl! We rock dont wE? :) and Welcome here :)

@Andu san: Yup, total trwasure box collector's material that one! muahhhh!!!

Idling in Top Gear said...

Ok, now I understand your comment on my "M" word entry.

The guy must have had Shani in his 7th house to have passed on someone with such good humor. BTW, how unclassy should one be to ask such questions to a girl with her parents (and his as well) present in the room (not that telling some stranger to lose weight in private is very couth either)!

Oh well, you'll do better, I am sure. I can't believe you don't have dudes standing in line after falling in love with your writing.

Take care,
B.

Bhai said...

:)

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