May 19, 2008

Cuteness in the Darkness :)

One night last week, something really cute happened. It actually involves a biggg bag of mixed emotions but I still think 'cute' topped the list :)

It was around 3 am. We were all asleep (like naturally. And yea, I sleep with my parents. No further questions). Through my hazy, sleepy-as-hell state, I heard someone sobbing like a baby. Initially I thought it was someone laughing in my dream but then I realized it wasn't and that it was my mum crying.

Now, lemme tell you, ever since her heart attack 2 years ago, she's paranoid about dying in her sleep. We've realllyyyy tried talking to her about this a zillion times over and tried getting her outta this silly mental framework, but it just doesn't seem to work. And to top it all these stupid tamil magazines that she reads and TV shows keep harping on sob-stories and tragic incidents in people's lives. Once in a while it is ok to probably get a dose of reality, but otherwise I think such shows must truly be banned. Oh, and credit must also be given to those veritable pakkathu-aathu maamis (next-door aunties), who keep going, "Rukku, epdi iruke? Heart attack ku apram elam ok dane? Unaku teriyuma, aniki kooda enoda akka-ponnu oda maamiyar heart-attack la apdiye thookathla sethuta. Careful aa iru" (Long dialogue, sorry, but here goes: Rukku, how are you? Everything is ok after your heart attack aa? You know, even that day my sister's daughter's mother-in-law died in her sleep of a heart attack. Be careful). It isn't a wonder that my mum doesn't sleep at night. So much so that she refuses even to get her tooth extracted because one such 'aunty' told her that her Dad passed away of a heart attack while having his tooth removed! I wonder if there is a personal-life analogy for every death that goes around.

So, thanks to all that and the fact that my mum is really weak herself, she never sleeps. Apparently she gets proper sleep only after dawn breaks because she knows the new day has come and she isn't gonna die in her sleep. (Forgot to mention, the 'stat' she gave an extremely irritated Dad and me that night, was that most deaths due to heart-attack happen during early morning or some crap! Source: Unknown).

And ever since we didn't take her symptoms of an attack to be anything worrisome back then, we now tend to take even small signs slightlyyyy seriously. We try not to show it out because we don't want to increase her already sky-rocketing anxiety levels.

Ok, so where's the cuteness in all of this? Let's get back to the 'situation'. Dad wakes up, jolted from his deep sleep by my sudden,"Appa, amma azhara" (Dad, Mom's crying). And he immediately takes mum into his arms like a baby and rocks her slowly, soothing her down and intermittently asking her,"Enna da aachu? Are you ok? Naa iruken illa? Enna achu? Bayapadade da kutta" (What happened? Are you ok? I'm there, no? Don't get scared baby). And I just couldn't help but feeling like one total idiot for being there in that room right then. But I was rooted. Because it was soooo cute and special to see their love going rock-solid strong even after 30 years. I've always admired that in my Dad. His love and the way he expresses it, it just makes me cry all the time. And my Mom is such a baby. She uses it, you know, her innocence trick. Doesn't work with us but works allll the time with Dad.

Infact, yesterday Dad was realllyyyyy upset he lost his wallet. One reason, apart from the existence of all his cards and contacts in it, was that getting a white wallet is really difficult (Dad wears only white, even his belt, shoes, socks etc etc). But it was only slowly that he blurted out the real reason - He was extremely sad because the wallet had a 30-year old snap of Mom - the way he fell in love with her. And he was pissed as hell with himself for being careless. Not for the wallet, not for the money or the cards, but for that 1 snap. I seriously, seriously found that super-cute.

He isn't the eloquent, quixotic, romantic kinds. Really isn't. But these small gestures of his are sooo...soo....special in their own way, it really rekindles my dying respect for love and its hype. Makes me feel like that little girl waiting for her Prince Charming to come get her :)

P.S: I've been away from the Blog World for 9 days. 9 days of not posting is huge by my own standards. I actually didn't feel like getting on. I guess battling the call to turn Anonymous had a lot to do with it, with mild coaxing from people around me. I still need more thinking on that.

60 comments:

--xh-- said...

wow, atzht sooo cute...

--xh-- said...

teh way ur dad love ur mom is really nice... the bonbd gng strong after years and years... and he giving her re-assuarence... :) man, it almost wet my eyes...
he wears only white? like yesudas? :) soo sad that he lost the foto... hope he gets it back...

Winds of Change said...

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.....

dat wuz realllllllllllllllyyyyyyy cute!!! .... as i told u worryn bout the picture thing ..man...really sweet!...i guess dat showz enuf dat as lng as u really like a person...watever relationship it may b....itz only such small thingz dat make such a big impact...more dan any thing...nw dis blog reminds me of wat hapnd on motherz day..v had gne to a restaurant with the fam n towards the end, the waiter sudnnly gave 3 small packs gift wrappd...dad had jus got sum small gft wishin my gmum/mum n aunt for mothers day!......i jus found it really sweet..... its the thought dat does matter :)......

lotsa luv
u kno who

The Techno Maniac said...

Hullo,

I kind of did not mention it completely in my last blog.. But only selet few people have what your parents have.

It was a sudden change for me to see my dad care for my mum.. a long story.. may be we will talk if we ever get to talk..

the point is, that, these people in this age care so much that it just makes us wonder whether we can be this way 30 years or 40 years hence..

and about your dad.. I know him a bit, and I have always admired him for his qualities.. nevrtheless he is like raymonds (complete man)

And i suppose.. what you witnessed the other day is undying love.. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.

And as per our tradition, when your parents got married, your father ought to have promised
to be together through everything,
each to care for the other when old and gray.. And when there is love, that pact is most likely to last for ever..

My best to your parents...

Cheers,
Centaur

rantravereflect said...

darn cuteeee babeeeeee..i found it written even cuter.,.
:)

nn i find it even cuter that ya found it cuteeee- i mean i know when ya dad is involved, how ya cud go alll mush,but this is your mom, n ya dun show that kinda emotion, but ried inside you is a burning love for her, cos ya're just like her in soooo many ways..
i mean 30 year is a long time, i mean that kinda compassion, dedication, love n sacrifice are unbeatable- love between our parents is a guiding torch for our lives.

tons of love!
let's keep the love burning!!

rantravereflect said...

"she's paranoid about dying in her sleep"

our parents are not getting younger,, i think it's about time we show them all the love we have in us for them :)

Shruti said...

aah.. sho shweet. :') so touching. Its really lovely when they express their love so sweetly even after so many years of being together :) Wish you all lots of joy! :)

Tys on Ice said...

woah! I really hope my wife doesnt read this...otherwise shes gonna want one too...

jokes apart...the best thing a parent can do for their children is to be in love with each other...

Sutta said...

Waaaooowww!! :) :)
And I read a post below, you a hip hop dancer? :O
Wah yaar! :D

The Maverick Blog said...

:)... I was easily able to relate some things that you've written in this post to some happenings in my life with my mom...

Its very hard to understand the emotions of a mother... I've succeeded most of the times.. But sometimes its beyond my control! Or even its beyond her control... Your mother is gifted to have ppl around her who understands her emotions all the time...

V said...

i would vote on banning neighborhood aunties too...

mayth!! said...

This post deserves an overdose of 'awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww' and more of it.

Lovely title first of all.
And damn all the pakathu-aathu maamis who scare aunty ..grr :x She will be healthy till 101..tell her that :)

aneri_masi said...

that is soo cute, and outta this world! Hope you find someone liket hat soon :)

And till then...go get your own room, girl! Leave em alone!

Arun Sundar said...

Neighboring maamis are terror wonly. One needs to be careful not to fall into their 'scare trap' or 'pattu podava crap'. Both has the same effects.

wickedtaurus said...

awwww...how chweeet! :) the kutta bit was too cute. :D

ps: you can't go all missing on us like this.:| whatcha email,girl?:)

upecmustang said...

i hate aunties who talk when they shouldnt.
infact...i just hate aunties...all they do is sit and talk and bitch about other aunties....
i adress women more than 3 years older to me as ma'am usually. hate aunties.

and the mo dad love story....i could rite a book actually...
on how my dad was a real smooth operator and how my innocent rj mom fell for his tricks and....ok...i''ll stop...its the conversation i had with them again.. hee hee hee...
well...
cheers anyway..
Mustang

black coffee said...

that was so bautiful!! and couples like that are such a rarity!
what they hav is a special gift that only a few couples get to share.. :)

drishti sutthi podungo i can get totally superstitious some times!! *cant help it*

i realy hope and pray nothing of that sort happens to your mum!

adi said...

nice nice..am with v...ban those maamis and tv shows..

CM-Chap said...

Thats really really cute!!!

Anonymous said...

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.. that was soooo cuteeeeeee. Seriously. Mushy mushy.


And actually even I sleep in my parents room:). I have a bed put on the floor.:).

-Ok

Prathi:-) said...

awwww:) di im not kidding... dts like super cute:)
im not kidding... really sweet:)
love is anyday so ultra cute sweet only when expressed... hmmmm not many such incidents in my life... i dnt have a very expressive parents...
u knw wht? i really loved the wallet part:)
that was like the best bit:)

Solitaire said...

OMG! That IS cute!
I hope I find someone like that...a husband to coo me to sleep when I am 60 and a daughter who blogs about it!

Preeti said...

@xh: Cute nah? I'm hopin he gets the photo back too...Tho im not too sure :( And yup, white like yesudar..Infact they r friends :D

@Wobo: AWWW!!! Uncle did that? Solave illa!??? :P

@Techno: We need to talk, yes... Get ur ass here soon :(

@Janie: Yup, u know how me n mum r..Pssst, dont tell her abt the post :P ;)

@Shruti: Yea!I found it soooo sweet! :)

@Tys: "the best thing a parent can do for their children is to be in love with each other..." U know what? That's one of the BEST things I've heard...Really...

@Sutta: Haha! Yea...hiphopping is my time pass ;)

@Maverick: We dont understand her all the time...I guess that's impossible..Edho ingayum angayum konjam :) Would love to hear ur side of the story too :)

@V: Ok, so shall we make a petition? :)

@Mayth: Thankoo thankoo! :D Will tell her what u said for sure :)

@Aneri: Hahahahaha! YEA! I know...But I'm tooooo scared to sleep alone :-/ And dad also doesn't allow it ;) :D

@Arun: Pattu podava crap! hahahaha! Actually patha, iduku aduve paravala sometimes :-/

k10 said...

Your dad is wayyyyyyy romantic!! I hope i can be like him when i am on the wrong side of 40.

Preeti said...

@Wicked: U missed me??? U MISSED ME? *talks to self: I was missed! Wickedgurl missed me!WOW!* *sniff* Thanks! :-/ Tee hee! Anywayz, email id: ramachandran.preeti@gmail.com...Please put it to gud use wonly ;)

@Mustang: No,no! Don't stop! Go on..Ur mum was an RJ???WOW! And then...???*Keeps hands on face and listens intently*

@Black coffee: Thanks! I hope so too :-/ And I will definitely do the drishti suthardu..Thing is telling my mum i care ;) hehe! Btw, Welcome here!

@Adi: Please sign the petition when it's done, wokay aa?

@Cm: Yea, isn't it? :)

@OK: Et tu!??!? WOW! *1327283 m HIGH-FIVE* Chance e illa! I'm so happy to find company!

@Prathi: Yea! Wallet thing happened Sunday...Mum still cant stop blushing abt it..But she also cant resist giving her unwanted quips ;)

@Sol: Haha! Yea! I wish the same..But, btw, mum isn't 60 yet ;) She's 53 :D Ahem!

Preeti said...

@K10: U mean to say u arent that age yet??? ;) Hehe! :D

Coconut Chutney said...

this is too cute.
I am all mushed up now. Lol, our dads are actually similar. Mine has a 15 year old "Happy anniversary Sweetheart" card that my mum gave to him in his laptop bag. He carries it with him everyday.
Lol, Isn't it unfair when the world's most awesome men are married to your mums?


:)

Superficial Gibbering prater said...

So sweet..truly romantic..

♥bμşγ-ŵŗϊŧēŕ♥ said...

Aww, cute totally..:) same here with my parents, the way they still talk to each other, feels like they've never passed the 'initial stages of love'. :)

err, i hope this sorta luck is heriditary. ;)

The Maverick Blog said...

@ Preeti

Ohhh... I really thought u guys did understand her all the time! So looks like we are sailin on the same boat in this case huh?

And yeah... I wud love to share my side of the story.. But I don't have the guts to blog it out:(.. Will tell ya sometime...

Vrij said...

Firstly, a big round of applause to ur Dad for the way he consoled ur Mom even after all the years.. I guess thats the beauty of our Indian marriages. We learn to love and appreciate the partner.

Secondly, I think you must tell ur Mom that if God willed her to die in her sleep, it should be the happiest moment.. I mean without troubling anyone, without suffering in hospitals, without making others run pillar to post..

Really, If God gave me a wish saying I can choose a way I go up.. I'd surely say "In my sleep, peacefully"..

Pranay said...

Gave me some lump in throat moments....really lovely...:)

wickedtaurus said...

@Preeti : ahaha...sooper good use wonly ---lemme hand it out to all the marriage material grad students! ;) :D

J said...

That was very sweet of your dad... 30 years into the marriage. Cheers to them.

SK said...

So cuteee!!! :--))
Its amazing how the dynamics changes after so many yrs of wedding. The warmth still remains. :--))

Venting Macha said...

made me smile :) damn nice post, and nice blog u got!

Keshi said...

*sigh* I wish I find a man who'd end up loving me the way ur dad and mum does :) CUTE indeedz!


**9 days of not posting is huge by my own standards

LOL yes..thats pathetic by ur standards babeh!

*HUGZ* I missed ya!

Keshi.

vishesh said...

tell you what,it is really irritating when pakathu athu mamai's get their act together..you are then forced to pint out another reality death is inevitable and it will come when it feels like coming....

Preeti said...

@CC: Seriously, me and sis alwayz wonder the same...But I've just grown to accept one thing...Noone can come close to my Dada and so, I'm safe cuz i have to expectations ;)

@Superficial: Yea :)

@Busygurl: Yea im hopin n prayin its hereditary...sincerely hoping and praying :-/

@Maverick: Yea, yea we r all the same only ritE? Generation gap nu onnu vandale we cn never understand fully, dont u think??? And yup, do temme sometime...But think of bloggin it to :)

@Vrij: Yea that's true tho, dying in one's sleep is probably the best to ask for..But she just donest get it - however we tell her :(

@pranay: :)

@Wickedgurl: On second thoughts, hmm, okkk ;) *bats eyelids sheepishly* Tee hee!

@J: Cheers :)

@SK: Haha! Yea, maybe u shud tell DH this ;)

@Venting macha: Thanx dude! And welcme here :)

@Keshi: Where wr u gurl!? Anywyz, GLAD u missed me! muaahhhh!

Preeti said...

@Vishesh: Yea, I'm planning to gift my mom those horse-blinds, to prevent such unnecessary talks..Not too bad an idea huh? ;)

vishesh said...

lol,good idea,but be warned these mami's have really good throats,they can shout like hell!

Preeti said...

@Vishesh: Oh no, that too? They r quite a force to reckon with huh? ;)

kumar said...

cuuteee,BTW enna photo adhu?

Okie Dokie said...

That photo is really really cute and funny.

Prathi:-) said...

btw... i forgot to tell u... dt new Here i Am look is dammmmnnn nice:) infact a little better than the old one;)

Preeti said...

@Kumar: Haha! Edho oru snap!My friends have this knack of clickin snaps at the wrongest of moments...This is one such :-/

@Okie: U think so?? Thanx! :") :")
*giggle giggle*

@Prathi: :P It's got pink and pastel shades, like naturally u will like it :P But thanx di :P

C R D said...

very sweet indeed :) only shows that romance isnt dead yet..did u feel jealous for a while of ur mom?[:P]

relatives and 'well wishers" can really do more harm than good sometimes. i remember i had a few aunties who wailed loudly and sobbed while my grandma was hospitalised. she started shivering sensing tht she was in deep trouble, docs had to show em the way out.

btw ive made a new orkut community for bloggers .id like to invite u to join it. its pretty interactive and is a nice way to get ur blog out for other bloggers to read.

http://www.orkut.com/Community.aspx?cmm=51446226

join this new blogger community.

atleast have a look

keep writing
chris
www.crissdude.blogspot.com

badshah khan said...

"Enna da aachu? Are you ok? Naa iruken illa? Enna achu? Bayapadade da kutti" + amma irukailai ....were the words my mom used to tell me when i used to go crazy in the night with the very thought of death .....

Nirmal's Blog said...

oh tats wass romantic...

and u sleep with ur parents...give them privacy gal...lol

Preeti said...

@CRD: Will definitely go join the community today and gt active thr :) Thanx for invitin n thanx for droppin by! And yea, i was definitely a tad bit jealous of momma rite there, but im happy for her and happy he's my dad :) And i know abt irreleventest stuff to say at the most irreleventest of moments...maybe id do my next post on that...? :)

@Badshah: Soooo cute :)

@Nirmal: I know, i know, but what to do, old habits die hard! :P

C R D said...

there u go ..i tag u on "THE MUSICAL TAG" :)

and yeah, waiting for her majesty to join the community :P

also inviting all other blogger visitors to my community..(sorry for using ur blog for my community's publicity:P)

Preeti said...

@CRD: Tagged! Yaay! ;)

And hey ppl, do join the community :)

Anonymous said...

Awww that was so cute!

btw hoes Ashwath doing? I've prayed, it will all turn out for the better.

♥bμşγ-ŵŗϊŧēŕ♥ said...

that pic on the sidebar is CUTE!! damn cute.. :)

ani said...

wow ..

that was a nice way to come back to your post...

awwwww uncle is soo dammmnnn romanticc man.. hehe and its soo cooll.. n yess.. i have got few comments about u being in that room ;).. i think u should have given them some time together :) hehe ok ok.. i know i know.. parents and all tht..

but reallyy that was soo coolllll mann :) hehe nice nice...

Roshan R said...

that is sooooo romantic.. seriously.

Roshan R said...

and ummm, seriously, kind sagely word of advice ... GET OUTTA THEIR BEDROOM !!!! :)

Preeti said...

@Anon: Ashwath is better, the operation is on the 1st mostly..Thanx for ur prayers :)

@Busygurl: Yea???U think so? THANX! MUAH! :)

@Ani: Bitch started bloggin again and never told me :P Mean gurl...!

@Roshan: I shall definitely try n heed to sagely advice, sire ;) :D And welcome here :)

Meenu said...

cute :)
amazing ..
ur dad really seems to be a great man .. - great cos of his
undying love ..
:)
take care

Preeti said...

@meenu: Thanx meenu :)