Mar 19, 2007

The Shoes Dont Alwayz Have To Fit......

Disclaimer: I am not a story-teller, I do not write auto-biographies, I am a ‘state-of-mind’ inspired blogger...My views are my own and need not be acceptable.....

Telling someone to buzz-off, asking someone to STOP bothering me, saying the dreaded 2-letter word, NO, to people- All of this comes R-e-a-l hard to me... I never want to hurt anyone by what I do or say....Even if something mean has been done to me...It's almost like if I'm gonna go ahead and say one wrong thing, I'm going directly to hell for having committed the greatest sin Ever...Which is why I wasn't really surprised when people tagged me "The Serial Pleaser!" However, I've started changing ever since the Phase of Introspection began (thanks to my dearest friends asking me to seriously Get A Life!)

Most of us, though undiagnosed, suffer from what medics call "The Empathy Syndrome"....This hinders the ability of the mind to think rationally....A clinical case of "Putting yourself in other's shoes"...Attempting,rather unsuccessfully, to 'understand' other's stance in a situation.... Too much empathy -borders on sympathy, though, and I'm sure noone wants that...

It is important for us to analyze things....to look at it from different angles before coming to a judgement...However, it is also essential to remember that All of us are different footed!!! There ISN'T and can NEVER be a 'one-size-fits-all' situation, you see....Having a towering personality (literally) makes it Veeeery difficult for me to actually FIT into most shoes...Either too small or too big (mostly the former!!)....Besides, even though I'm wearing someone else's shoes, I've still got MY thinking cap on....So..no matter how hard I try to understand, to say the right things, I'm most likely NOT to understand....and well, NOT say the right things... And that isn't wrong...I don't expect people to understand what I go through and similarly the other way round...

My Friends, those veritable creatures who keep me sane in this insane world, have now come to realize that it is highly impossible to convince me to stop thinking about stuff...That no matter what anyone tells me, I am on my own...I just NEED them to be there with me, through my temperaments, not necessarily to understand me....With that support, I'm sure I'll be alright :)

And so,once again, as wisdom descends on me, I realize, and thus impart, that the next time someone tells you to 'understand', moreso, to "Put yourself in their Shoes"....Do remember- The Shoes Dont Alwayz Have to Fit....

4 comments:

Winds of Change said...

very well put gurl....the funniest part is, everyone NEEDS everyone....in the sense, each one is crazy in their own ways.....n the world would b BORING if each n every person thot and 'understood' the same way....rite? i mean....thr wud b no arguements...no confusion....hence life wud b wayy too perfect....n thats sick.....so chill...everyonez sailin in the very same boat...n dont worry....(this might b more of a sad news), but im gna b thr wit u alwayz....n so will the rest of ur frndz.....afterall...WHAT R FRNDZ 4??!!....

u kno who! :D

germinal_dreamer said...

Nice to see a blog which is straight out.
I would like to see a better style.
... these dots do irritate and 'shoe'away the bare footed hungry readers like me.
so a plead from a distant friend, make the article readable by having normal punctuations and esp avoiding this {...}... :)
YABTOR!(yet another blog to read)

The Techno Maniac said...

I dont have sufficient previlage to tell you about my opinion. But I just want to tell you... I M THERE.. I dont know whether you know that..

Cheers

gayathri said...

hey i understand u da..:)i know to some extent wat u going thru as we chatted tat night di....:).. so keep going dnt wry abt things.. everything wil be fine,,,.. FINALLY DONT FORGET I AM ALWAYS THERE FOR U...even al others friends also wil be wit u k baby....:)